What Do You Think We Should Do?
Monday, August 2nd, 2010 at
11:19 am
KMW_JSE_9272008 asked:
my grandfather has parkinsons disease and he gets worse everyday. me and my fiance are getting married next year and he told me the one day that he was thinking about when we have kids and how my grandfather might not be around or if he is who knows how bad he is going to be. he made the comment about having a kid now that way they can spend time with one another and get to know each other. i wanna have kids and everything but im afraid if we would have a kid now for that reason, then everyone would be disappointed and upset with us since we arent married yet. ill be 21 in october and my fiance is going to be 23 next month..
my grandfather has parkinsons disease and he gets worse everyday. me and my fiance are getting married next year and he told me the one day that he was thinking about when we have kids and how my grandfather might not be around or if he is who knows how bad he is going to be. he made the comment about having a kid now that way they can spend time with one another and get to know each other. i wanna have kids and everything but im afraid if we would have a kid now for that reason, then everyone would be disappointed and upset with us since we arent married yet. ill be 21 in october and my fiance is going to be 23 next month..
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bad idea, don’t have kids till you’re ready!
Do not have kids until you and your mate are ready. I am sorry to hear about your grandfather but you have no guarantees that he would be around even if you did decide to get pregnant now. YOU need to enjoy the time you have left with your grandpa and not put added pressure on yourself in this manner.
First of all, never have a child out of wedlock. Lots of children never know their grandparents, but knowing both their biological parents are married and giving them the love they need is more important!
Get married first.
The reason you cited is NOT a valid and good enough reason to have *** out of wedlock. Wait until you’re married.
It is a tough call, but under the circumstances you have to do whats best for you and your wife. Kids are a big responsibility and a lot of work. Make sure you are ready 100%.
In my opinion I think that you should wait to have kids until your ready. If your grandfather passes well then you’ll have a lot of stories to tell you kids about how great of a person he was. You guys are still to you wait a couple of more years for it. God Bless to you and your loved ones…
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You are right, this is not a reason to have a baby! Get married, have stable jobs w/insurance, enjoy being together for awhile without anything tying you down, then have a baby, because you know your relationship is working and out of love.
Agreed, bad idea.
I would advise you guys don’t rush the kids at all. It’s a good idea to really get to know the person you’re with before committing to something like children.
We almost changed our wedding date for my husband’s grandfather, but we didn’t do it soon enough. Still, I wouldn’t dream of having kids until he and I are both ready for the responsibility. I’m 27 and still not quite ready for that LIFETIME COMMITMENT of a child. I know my grandmother (age: 95) hopes to meet my children someday, but she would be mortified at the idea of us having them just for her.
I think it would be better to spend the time you know you have now with him, lots of time. What happens if you get pregnant and then your grandfather passes before you give birth?
Kids are a big decision, just do what feels right in YOUR heart!!!!
am sorry to hear about your grandfather. you have children because you both want children and the time is right in your life to have them. you don’t have children because of another family member. i understand that it would be heartbreaking for you to have a child without having their grandfather there (whether he has survived until you have children or if the disease has deteriorated him that badly), and you said that he is getting worse everyday so how do you think he will be 9 months a year from now? what your child will know about his/her grandfather is what you tell him/her. have children when YOU are ready to be a parent.