Why Doesn’t My Grandma Want Me to Go Upstairs in Her House?
Saturday, October 2nd, 2010 at
7:05 am
Scotty asked:
I go to my Grandparents house very often, and the thing that I do most is Laundry. I hang up clothes on the clothes line, and then when I have to bring the clothes upstairs, she gets a little mad at me. I love going upstairs to organize the clothes, but considering she has Parkinsons disease, she most likely thinks that I’m someone else, and doesn’t want me to go upstairs. I get upset after that happens. What can I say or do to get away from this? The only reason I go to their house is to do laundry, but then she says to come downstairs and play, but I tell her that I go upstairs to do Laundry. Please give me a serious answer, even though the question may sound funny.
My Grandpa doesn’t mind me going upstairs though.
I go to my Grandparents house very often, and the thing that I do most is Laundry. I hang up clothes on the clothes line, and then when I have to bring the clothes upstairs, she gets a little mad at me. I love going upstairs to organize the clothes, but considering she has Parkinsons disease, she most likely thinks that I’m someone else, and doesn’t want me to go upstairs. I get upset after that happens. What can I say or do to get away from this? The only reason I go to their house is to do laundry, but then she says to come downstairs and play, but I tell her that I go upstairs to do Laundry. Please give me a serious answer, even though the question may sound funny.
My Grandpa doesn’t mind me going upstairs though.
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it’s hard to tell what your grandmother is thinking….
maybe she is worried that if someone goes upstairs they will take something of hers… maybe she’s paranoid, i don’t know.
try to respect her wishes, though. and take care.
Maybe she doesn’t trust you.
Maybe she has things upstairs she does not want you snooping around in.
It may be the Parkinsons, but try this…before you go upstairs politely go to her and ask her if you may go upstairs and sort your laundry. if she knows what you want to do you might get a better reaction.
Respect her feeling about you being upstairs, regardless of why she feels that way. It’s her home. Stay where she wants you to be while you are there. Some people are very private about certain areas of their home. My grandma never allowed me into her back bathroom. I never asked her why, I just didn’t go in there. Maybe she had meds in there she didn’t want me to see. I have no idea.
The point is, just spend time with her while you can. Play by her rules for the short time you are together.
She probally has something very valuable up there, that she dosent want you to see. When you said she can’t remember who you are, she probally dosent want you to steal it. That’s honestly the best answer I can give you.
Parkinsons is not like Alzheimers, where she would forget who you were, I mean she LETS YOU IN THE HOUSE!
Maybe it is her sanctuary, or if Grandpa is no longer around, that area may hold special memories for her, of them, and your intrusion to that area would mess with her chi.
I will refrain from any sick and twisted responses, as I have lost both of my Grandmas in this past year, one earlier this month.
Just don’t go up there and invade “her space”. Easy enough!
You should spend some time with her and then go do laundry. Because she probably DOES have a clue that’s the only reason you come.
she is lonely and wants your attention that is why feel good about it, its lonely for old people living alone, you are a good person to help the old dear out. God bless you
I took care of my Grandmother that has alzheimers and there is no easy way around these types of situations. I suggest you keep telling her why you are going upstairs, and remind her why you are up there periodically. Her reasoning as to why she doesn’t want you up there could be a number of reasons. She may feel an invasion of privacy, maybe not wanting you to see a messy upstairs? , maybe she feels ashamed she can’t do it herself. etc. All you can do is reinforce why and have her come upstairs with you if possible.
Does she have Parkinson’s or alzheimer’s. If she has alzheimer’s she may remember you as little or as one of her own children. Perhaps she didn’t allow kids to play upstairs when they were little. The fact that she says “play”, obviously you are not a little boy if you are doing your laundry. There isn’t much you can do. Reminding her of who you are might make her confused and upset. I know this may sound wierd, but maybe ask her if she can do your laundry?
go do loundry some were else or steal hers and move it to your hause its more conveniet that way you dont have to go over and scare her lol
Organize and fold the laundry downstairs so she can see what your doing. She sounds paranoid. I would try to respect her wishes since she lets you do laundry there.
Maybe before you go upstairs, let her know or ask her. She might be paranoid about some things but reassure her that you only want to get the laundry done for her. take care and don’t let it bother you. Just try and love her more , cuz I miss my grandma like crazy, She been gone since ’94
well its very hard to know what’s in her mind
we can only guess but don’t know which is true
next time when u want to go upstairs, go with your grandpa and see how is her reaction……..
maybe u get an answer from there……….
good luck.